Article : Want to Be Unforgettable in Bed?

Ditch your guy and go solo

Take your bedroom moves from blah to oh, baby ‑- and turn yourself into a sex goddess overnight, guaranteed. Only after you've practiced on yourself ‑- on your own ‑- will you truly be able to rock your guy's world.

What does it for you?

I'm guessing that those of you lucky enough to own a vibrator are now taking it out of the bedside table. But, while I am a huge fan of sex toys, unless your man comes equipped with a vibrating tongue and spare batteries, it's pretty pointless to use one for what we're trying to accomplish today. I want to help you learn each and every one of your own personal hot spots ‑- and figure out what you'll need to tell your partner to do while he's there. And that means no shortcuts.

• First, lie in a comfortable position on the bed or prop yourself up against some pillows with your legs relaxed and apart. Ignore what you've seen in his porn films: Most women don't remove all their clothes and luridly lick their lips while rubbing oil all over their breasts. Usually it's just off with the knickers, leaving everything else on.
• Squeeze out a big dollop of lubricant, and apply it to the inner lips of the vagina and clitoris.
• Start by massaging the entire area, adding more lubricant if you start to feel dry.
• Begin concentrating your movements on the clitoris. Most women avoid direct contact because it becomes so sensitive to the touch ‑- so work around it. You may discover that one side is more responsive than the other.
• Most women use the middle right-hand finger to rub, stroke or flick the clitoris as though they're strumming a guitar. Keep the rhythm steady but gentle to start. Try rubbing your fingers back and forth, skimming over the clitoris, or try moving one fingertip in a circular motion.
• Look down to see exactly where your hands are and what they're doing. If you need to, use one hand to hold a mirror. Often the technique you're using and the area where you're using it will feel very different than how it looks. And since the idea here is to teach your lover exactly how to replicate your favorite moves, you need to observe exactly what's happening. Are you moving back and forth or in circles? If you've used various touches, when did you switch from one to the other? I'd strongly advise keeping a notebook handy to write down all this information during masturbation or immediately after your orgasm. The more specific your instructions, the more likely he'll get it just right.
• Keep going until the sensation builds and seems to center at the clitoris. Some women press harder at this point; others simply keep on doing what has felt great all along.
• Again, look down and take note of exactly what your fingers are doing. How is the rest of your body feeling? You might notice that your nipples are erect, your vagina is a darker color and more lubricated, your breath is quicker than normal, and you're tensing the muscles in your thighs and bottom.
• Just before climax, you may feel hot and flushed, particularly on your face and chest (it's nicknamed "the sex flush"). An orgasm occurs when the blood that's moved to the genitals becomes too intense for that area to handle and heads back to the rest of the body. You'll experience a powerful rush of pleasure and muscular contractions in your vagina. Concentrate. Try to estimate just how long the orgasm lasts. Male orgasms last about five seconds, and female orgasms last about 15 seconds, but it varies between individuals, and it would be incredibly useful for you to tell your guy the duration of yours. That way he won't unknowingly stop stimulating you smack bang in the middle of your orgasm.