he Subjective Role Of Sexy Lingerie

by: Jason Mark Hulott

There are three kinds of lingerie in the world. There is that used strictly to bring on the act of sex. Fishnet stockings with a sheer camisole set, for example. Or a g-string and a half-cup bra. Then there are lingerie pieces that serve to enhance or control the body's natural beauty. Corsets, garters, and bustiers are examples. Finally, there is the sexy lingerie. This is lingerie used in the art of romance. Silk negligees and lacy panties, for instance.

Marketing of sexy lingerie is aimed toward the everyday woman, the working mom or career lady who has to spend every day in a man's world. The lingerie these women want to wear on the weekend doesn't include granny panties and a T-shirt. It isn't a trampy, uncomfortable outfit either. They want lingerie that is tasteful and classy enough to wear on a regular basis. And comfortable. If they can't enjoy wearing lingerie, they don't want it at all. Men buying lingerie for their ladies need to realize this.

It is important to say here that sexy is a subjective term. It depends really on the psychology of those involved. What one man thinks is sexy might be utterly atrocious and distasteful to another. Take sheer lingerie. One man would find the idea of seeing his lady's body through the lingerie very sexy and stimulating. Another man would think it too revealing and unimaginative. In order to determine where they stand on the matter, men could answer the following questions:

1. Do you get aroused seeing fully-clothed women?
2. Would you go or have you ever gone to a striptease?
3. When you and your lady get time alone, what do you do first?

This strange set of questions can tell men a lot about what they think is sexy. It will also reveal to them some of their attitudes about the act. Men who climax early during intercourse shouldn't buy trampy, skimpy lingerie. A sexual encounter shouldn't be over in five minutes. Men who find themselves aroused in the presence of fully-clothed women usually have a good imagination. A simple body-suit for their women can prove provocative to them. Men who frequent the striptease or the nearby go-go club might need more. These shows desensitize. The sexy or romantic style of lingerie just won't cut it. These men need to see skin. A thong or backless panties might help some men along. Finally, the last question. On the weekend, after the work week is done, men and women reunite in a more relaxed atmosphere. They have a chance to remedy what might be days of sexual frustration. Men who want sex first won't need alluring lingerie. A simple bra and panty set will suffice. Men who expect to spend a romantic evening with their ladies before commencing with sex should go for the silk chemise or camisole set.

So, what does sexy lingerie do for a relationship? Depending on what men feel is sexy, it can either lead to or instigate the act of making love. In the lingerie world, sexy style lingerie points to that which is alluring and attractive, without becoming pornographic. It is the comfortable silk or satin nightgown. It covers enough of the body to leave things to the imagination. But since sexy is a subjective term, it has come to include all types of lingerie, whether they reveal nothing or everything.