Article : New Ways to Touch Him

by Suzie Heumann (www.tantra.com)

In the early part of 2005 Cosmo UK asked me for some ideas for an article on new and different places to erotically touch men. It was obvious to me that this is an over-done subject but then I got to thinking about it and came up with these ideas. The sensual arts are a big part of the Kama Sutra. It isn’t all about positions! Some of these suggestions can be used outside of the bedroom too.

Others of them are great little Tantric ‘secrets’. Brushing the energy away from the genitals when a man is in high states of arousal is a good way to spread the energy and keep him from going over the top. Mixing it up with different kinds of touch during intercourse and other lovemaking acts always takes a lover by wonderful surprise. Use your hands as often as you can in as many new ways as you can.

Discover your own secret Mudras (sacred positions of the hands, other body parts or even the whole body that you just know are somehow magical – you can feel it when it happens), touching secrets and titillating moves. Send your suggestions to me at suzie@tantra.com for things that are particularly Tantric to add to this list.

Gently, and then more forcibly, pull his hair - any hair. The hair follicles, buried under the skin, are nearer to the nerve endings and produce a very pleasurable feeling when brushed or pulled.

When kissing, suck on his lower lip deeply. In Tantric practice the lower lip on the man provides a direct channel to his sexual organ’s excitement.

Caress his inner thighs with a piece of fur, a feather, or your breasts. The inner thighs are exquisitely sensitive because they are relatively protected from courser contact. When soft, subtle items touch them they respond immediately.

Run your fingertips gently over his eyes, starting from the center and moving outward. Our eye lids a super sensitive and rarely do we think of touching them. Men are very visual so their eyes take in a lot of their world. This kind of touch evokes love, caring, and a soothing tenderness that puts a man into purring mode.

Rub his belly in gentle circles, with one of your free hands, as you pleasure him. This will heighten his pleasure and remind him to deep breathe into his belly. You want him to do this because it will spread his erotic energy and sloooooow him down!

Brush his ecstatic sexual energy up from his genitals, past his belly to his heart area with one hand while lovemaking. This will spread his pleasure throughout his body and help him master his excitement. Moving the sexual energy into a man's heart is where YOU want it and where he will want it to prolong his pleasure. Very Tantric!

When he's on top wrap your legs around him such that your heels put pressure on his sciatic notch, the area just above his hip joints. He'll get an acupressure massage while you're rocking and rolling. This relieves lower back pain and gives you an anchor for your ecstatic pleasure.

Suck, lick, nibble and bite his ear lobes. Ears are classic. The story goes that the bigger his earlobes the more erotic energy he'll have. You can create even more sensual pleasure if you slip down and include his neck.

Caress, both lightly and then more firmly, the area from his armpits to his hips. This area has a lot of nerve endings and has been known as an erotic area for millennia - you know, the love handles are located here.

Very slowly touch and caress his face the lightest you possibly can, barely touching it at all. Light touch allows him to focus on each exquisite detail coming from your fingertips. Often men want sexual touch to be strong and on the firmer side but if you offer him up something different he'll understand the stimulating affects of subtle touch too. Caressing the face is an erotic way to say that you love and care for him, too.

Tickle and play with his feet by kissing and caressing and THEN lick between his toes and surprise him by taking one or two into your mouth and sucking deeply. He'll go over the top but make sure he's washed first! Toe sucking is the closest thing to the other thing! Our feet are very sensitive and this is a fantastic place to focus on to take him off guard and give him a night he'll remember.

Find a small child's blow-up swimming pool, put down a tarp and get out some older towels, braid your hair if it's long, heat up three cups of olive oil, put one to two cups in the bottom of the pool, undress and the two of you get in. Add more warm oil if needed later and proceed to rub your body over every part of his! This will cover 99 places to touch and then some - over the top fun!